Have you ever noticed how some people seem to have a charmed life?
Maybe it’s lasting love, plenty of money or a successful business. Maybe they are just happy for no reason at all.
Yet no matter how hard you try, when it comes to certain things in your life, you seem to hit a wall.
Why is it difficult for most of us to find fulfilment in certain areas in our life? Each of us has a core pattern of fear or a belief that’s held in place from something that occurred in the past, usually when we were young.
As we begin to desire something, our fear can grip us in an unconscious belief that keeps us from exactly what we want. These old, subconscious beliefs and fears are keeping us from where we want to be today.
Here is an example. Let’s say, since you can remember, your family’s belief around money has been — it never comes easy and there’s never enough. Perhaps you grew up in an environment that believed those who have money are greedy and/or money corrupts people and societies. Looking back over your life you notice money hasn’t come easy and if you’re really honest, you don’t expect it to change.
Yet, there are people in your life who seem to have all the money they desire and then some. So, what’s the difference?
What you believe or feel on the inside (whether you are aware of it or not) is what you will create on the outside. Your life, as you see it today, is a reflection of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions and fears.
These fears and beliefs don’t have to be around money. They can include fears of abandonment, humiliation, co-dependency, perfection, and failure just to name a few.
When you become aware of your old constricting fears and beliefs, you are able to see them differently. From this place you can begin to dismantle them and create new beliefs so you can begin living the life you desire and deserve.
Take Action Now:
* Look at where you struggle in your life. It could be healthy relationships, money, a fulfilling career, a loving partner or just believing in yourself.
* Notice the fear pattern, belief or fear that is keeping you stuck? Do you believe you must be perfect? That life is hard? Are you dependent on others or afraid you’ll be abandoned or betrayed? Are you afraid of making mistakes or being judged? Do you believe men/women are not to be trusted?
*Become intimate with this belief and/or fear. Have compassion for this frightened and confused part of yourself.
* Now allow the adult within to redefine what is really true for you. Step powerfully into this new belief.
To claim freedom and happiness in your life, you must become intimate with your fears and beliefs so you can dismantle them and create the life you desire.
Do you desire more love in your life? Do you ever think, “When I find my true love then I’ll be complete”? Or maybe you’re already in a long-term relationship and you’d like it to be more loving.
As long as you search for love outside of yourself, you will never find it.
That’s because love has nothing at all to do with someone else. If you think love is what you want, you’ll be searching for it your whole life. That’s like searching for the pot-o-gold at the end of the rainbow. It’s just not there.
Love is inside of you.
No matter how hard you try, you just won’t find lasting love anywhere else but within. You can’t earn it or perform for it.
Love is not what you want. Love is what you are. This is a very important distinction.
If you think love is what you want, you’ll spend your life searching for it. If you know love is what you are, you’ll spend your life sharing it. By sharing love, you will find what the searching will never give you.
Love begins within. It’s your birthright. You are love. Awaken and reconnect to your love within.
As you connect with the love inside, you will be able to share it with others. Just by being the love, you will attract more love to you and create the love-filled life you desire.
Yet, it’s impossible to give to others what you don’t think you have within to give. So, how easy is it for you to connect to the love within yourself? It all begins with loving yourself.
Here are three things to try this week:
* Do something loving for yourself every day. Ask yourself each day, “What do I desire?” and give it to yourself. Do for yourself what you wish others would do for you. Take care of yourself first. Romance yourself like you want to be romanced.
* Find a quiet place and close your eyes.
Take 3 deep breaths to ground yourself within.
Now, connect with the feeling of love. You can do this by remembering someone whom you love such as your child or your pet. Or maybe, remembering something you love doing, a project you are working on, or an activity you love to do.
This exercise triggers the love that is already inside of you. Hold onto this feeling for as long as you can. Be the love.
* Another exercise is to go to a mirror and gaze into your eyes. Tell yourself, “I love you.” Feel this love for yourself.
By regularly doing these exercises you are reconnecting to the love within you.Practice reconnecting to and sharing your love every day. Give it to yourself and give it to others.
Love yourself. Love others. Be the love.
A Personal Note from Cindy
I just purchased our tickets to the U.S. for June and July. I am so looking forward to enjoying another summer in California. For me that means quality time spent with our daughter and my mother, attending my aunt’s 90th birthday with my cousins, reconnecting with my college friends and girlfriends and living 6 weeks on the lake soaking up the warm weather, our long lazy days and the lifestyle it brings. This year both of our kids will be together with us at the lake for the first time in 8 years. I’m really excited!
Yet, I have 8 weeks here in New Zealand before we leave. I love my time here, yet I can’t wait to get my arms around my daughter and enjoy summer at the lake.
Do you ever wish time would pass so you could get to the warmer days, love-filled moments or fun times ahead?
We know our days are numbered, yet it’s easy to take them for granted. It’s almost like we fall asleep believing our day-to-day life as we know it will go on forever. We think we have plenty of time. But do we?
Often, it’s not until we lose a loved one or discover we are sick and dying that we focus on making the most of every moment we have here. Why does it take an event this big to remind us of how precious each day is?
Losing track of time on the internet, forgetting to check in with friends, or not stopping to give grace for the food on our table and my strong healthy body are a few of the ways I, too, can take my beautiful life for granted.
In this moment right now, I encourage you to remember, today is as precious as a sunrise yet melting as quickly as a snowflake.
Fill your heart with gratitude, love and joy and celebrate your life right now.
With much love and gratitude for you,
How to Be a Gratitude Magnet
One of the turning points in my life was when I was learning to tree-ski through powder snow. I loved the freedom of skiing down a groomed run and wanted to experience the exhilaration of powder skiing through a forest of trees. The thought of getting hurt, however, became quite threatening and scary.
After loading the chairlift for another try, I explained to my ski teacher how I was feeling as I skied down the steep tree-lined slope.
“I feel like I’m going to ski right into a tree, and I’m afraid I’m going to get hurt,” I explained.
“The secret is to keep your eyes on the spaces between the trees, not on the trees,” he replied.“Look to where you are going, not where you don’t want to go.”
Sure enough, as soon as I took my focus off the trees and looked at the spaces between the trees, it was like a magnet pulled me through with effortless ease.
That is exactly the same with life. We get discouraged and frustrated with the many obstacles in our way. We fear the worst. Yet, we must remember, we are drawn to what we give attention to.
When you focus on your problems and what is NOT working, you get more of the same. Instead, it’s important to focus on what you desire or on the solution.
Below are two ways to use this principle in your life.
* Give attention to what you want in life, not to what you don’t want. True story: Before going into a store, almost boastfully, both my grandmother and mother used to declare whatever they were looking for would be not be available. Of course, we were never surprised when 9 times out of 10 they were right. From that experience, I have claimed the opposite to be true. I know I will find exactly what I need in life and yes, 9 out of 10 times I do. And when I don’t, I trust something better is on its way.
* When making a comment or requesting something from someone, state what you desire, not what you don’t desire. For example, when your son is driving long distance late at night, suggest “Drive carefully” instead of “Don’t get hurt.”
As you ski down the hill of life, get clear with what you desire and imagine being THERE. See and feel it happening. Let go of trying to control it or your circumstances and let it flow. As you begin to flow, you feel a great sense of gratitude.
When you are in gratitude, like a magnet, you attract and create more things to be grateful for.
Try this:
- Notice when you focus on what you don’t want. This could be giving attention to a problem, a negative person or a fear of what could happen.
- Stop and turn it around. Instead, imagine what you do want. See and feel the desired outcome. You don’t have to know how it is going to happen. Just know it will.
- State your requests and desires to yourself and others in a positive format.
- Take time each day to give gratitude for what’s going right in your life. This can be when you first wake up, before a meal, or before you go to sleep at night. Give thanks for all you can.
Whatever emotion you are feeling, that is your vibration or frequency. You are usually feeling a combination of emotions, which creates your resonance. Your resonance actually attracts what shows up for you in your world. In other words, whatever emotions you are resonating, the Universe will match it.
Don’t stuff your feelings. Depending on the emotion, feel and release it or feel and expand it!
If you are hurting, don’t try to explain or defend the reason why. By doing so, you are just giving more attention to the hurt and locking it in with your story. Detach from the story. Let it go and let it flow!
1. A tendency to think and act deliberately, rather than from fears based on past experience.
2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
3. A loss of interest in judging others.
4. A loss of interest in judging self.
5. A loss of interest in conflict.
6. A loss of interest in interpreting the action of others.
7. A loss of ability to worry.
8. Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
9. Contented feelings of connectedness with others and with nature.
10. Frequent attacks of smiling through the heart.
11. Increasing susceptibility to kindness offered, and the uncontrollable urge to reciprocate.
12. An increasing tendency to allow things to unfold, rather than resisting and manipulating.
~ Author unknown
